"You Asked For It, You Got It": The Rules of Life Contracts
Life's Most Terrible Truth
The most terrible truth that anyone will ever learn while they are
on Earth is… that they agreed to come here and to experience all that
has, is, and will happen to them. The universe operates under this
simple rule: "all that happens is by prior agreement".
Whose Life Is It Anyway?
So if your life is not as you would wish
it to be, you will want to know just who it was that agreed and why
"they did it".
The "who it was" that entered into this agreement -
your life contract - was you in the "between life" state before your
entered into this lifetime. As to "why" you did it, the answer is
always the same… to promote your spiritual advancement.
About Your Life Contract: Your Life Sentence
to "School House Earth"
Sometimes these "life sentences" are decided upon by the Lords
of Karma… and you have no choice but to agree with them. More often,
you - the you in the "between life" state - is the one who selected the
adventure known as your life.
Before you conclude that you
may have done a lousy job there and want a change, consider that the
view from the "inside" (the inner God worlds) is vastly different than
the "outside" view (the Earth "reality"). On the
inside, you were more concerned with settling
karmic debts, with getting certain spiritual lessons right, and with growing
closer to God. Once you arrive on the
outside, the nature
of your perspective always shifts and you become
more concerned with living each day.
In the Perfectly Unfolding Universe…
is that "you are where you are supposed to be,
doing what you are supposed to be doing, and contributing to the
perfection of the universe." At times, that knowledge alone can make
a difficult life easier to bear.
bad news is that
"you are probably firmly tied to the train tracks of karma, are likely
to stay there for the rest of your natural life, and should just stay
the course to avoid getting a worse ride next life."
Yet there is a shining ray of hope:
for if you learn your lessons, if you accomplish your spiritual objectives,
and if you settle your debts, the train tracks of karma can be switched
to give you a more pleasant ride. It is a compassionate universe: no
one wants to punish you, they only want to see you learn.
How Agreement Works in the
Universe. Here is how it unfolds:
GOD ALLOWS EVERYTHING IN THE UNIVERSE
Whenever I find myself "going into judgment" about something, I get
right out of it by remembering two things. One, that if it is allowed
to exist, it exists because God allows it and, if God allows it, it is
for some good reason that I am either not capable of knowing or am not
privileged to know. Two, that is world is a stage of karma, and that,
eventually, "what goes around, comes around".
The beauty of past life
work is the constant reaffirmation that it is a just universe. For
someone might succeed in delaying the hand of justice, but, given enough
time, they never succeed in denying it. So, if there is something in
your life that has "happened to you", remember that God has allowed it
and that the reason for it will be revealed to you at some point on your
journey through the universe.
2> ALL THAT HAPPENS IS ALWAYS BY AGREEMENT
For universal justice to be perfect and absolute, then everything must
happen by prior agreement. Even experiences that are imposed by the Lords
of Karma upon any given individual always contain an element of negotiation
which implies a measure of consent.
So when we come into the adventure of our lives, we are
much like actors who are handed a series of roles. Unlike actors, we
are free to change the script within the confines of the role we are
assigned to play. For those of us that transcend our parts by playing
them to perfection, we move onto better, more challenging roles. And
the others we were originally signed to play against are assigned to
other actors. So when it comes to organizing and administering all the
agreements, it becomes apparent that God really is in the details.
THERE IS NO GOOD OR EVIL - ONLY EXPERIENCE
It frequently surprises clients when I tell them that I outrank them on
the Sin-o-Meter (as in "I was a way worse sinner that you were in past
lives!"). The truth is that not many have had past lives that were and
still are labeled as "Anti-Christ" like I have had.
Yet if I could
go back in time and undo those "evil" lives, I would not, because I had gained
too much from them. My resourcefulness, courage, resilience, toughness,
and so on came from my so-called "evil" lifetimes. Now I have certainly
paid karmically for all the harm I inflicted during them, and I have no desire
to pursue the "dark path" any longer, but I have lost my "moralizing judgment"
Even I accept what is called "the universal viewpoint".
That there is no good and no evil, no reward and no punishment, no high
and no low. All there is are experiences designed to help you grow as Soul
in love, joy, and awareness. You learn as Soul what works and what does
not. In the end you find that for any question, love is the answer.
4> "DEPTHS OF DARKNESS" LEAD TO "HEIGHTS OF LIGHT"
Since we live in the world of duality - day and night, winter and summer,
man and woman - we learn to look at the world "from both sides now". We
discover that one is not better than another, only different. And so it
is with the paths of darkness and light: to understand one path, we must
have experienced the other.
And the more we wish to experience one path,
the more we must embrace the other. For we can only reach the "heights
of light" by experiencing the "depths of darkness". So the "higher" we
wish to go into the "light" means the "lower" we must journey in the
"darkness". What we come to is a true understanding of the ancient Chinese
symbol of "Yin and Yang". For there is not darkness in which there is
no light, and no light in which there is not darkness.
PROBLEMS ARE BLESSINGS, WOUNDS BECOME GIFTS
Most people are incapable of believing that they are the source of their
own problems. It is so much easier to "blame it" on bad luck, misfortune,
and random circumstances than to accept total and complete karmic
responsibility for their lives.
And yet before we incarnate we agree
to take on all our problems for the lessons they bring us. Simply put,
our wounds become our gifts, and the greater the wounds, the greater the
I have yet to meet a great healer that did not go through their
own cycle of serious problems before connecting with their gifts.
The truth is that you cannot heal someone unless you can first understand
their pain. And you cannot understand their pain without having gone
through it yourself. For experience is the best and the only teacher.
THE "WHO" BEHIND THE AGREEMENT
So "who" was it that agreed to your life contract anyway? The "you" who
is down here on Earth is not the one who agreed to it, you are just the
one who lives with it (as in example: being a "crack whore").
"you" who is up there in the inner worlds of God is the one who has agreed
to your life contract "on behalf" of the "you" down here. This "you on
high", your Higher Self, is the Soul part of you that is behind everything
that happens to you and everything you do. So, literally, you only have
yourself to blame for "your problems".
THE "WHY" BEHIND THE AGREEMENT
Before you start beating yourself up for making your life too hard, keep
in mind that the "you on high" is only following the rules that are laid
out by "management": God/Goddess/All That Is. There are many rules
governing agreements that everyone is expected to follow, most of them
boil down to this one simple rule.
That what you have done to others
will be done to you in life after life until you learn to value and
love all life unconditionally so that you can become an "independent"
CoWorker with God… independent in the sense that you can be trusted to
lead others wisely. And where you lead them is along their own path
to total love, joy, and awareness.
YOUR BODY'S ROLE IN ENFORCING AGREEMENTS
In the between life state, when people choose parents and bodies for
their next Earth life, that choice always involves genetics. The
genetics driving an individual's birth condition(s) is a choice
made consciously by the Soul and/or the Lords of Karma before the Soul
So severe physical birth "defects" - such as Down's
Syndrome, improperly functioning/deformed body parts, learning disabilities,
etc - ensure that the "life sentence" imposed by these conditions will be
carried out. That is how a human body functions like a "prison without
walls" - it traps the individual inside a prison of flesh that largely
determines what they can and cannot do in any given lifetime.
YOUR MIND'S ROLE IN ENFORCING AGREEMENTS
In the between life state, when people choose parents and bodies for
their next life, that choice always involves mental preconditioning.
This mental preconditioning consists of embedding "internal triggers" in
an individual's consciousness that will be activated when they encounter
the "pre-planned" events called for in their life contract.
Dr. Morris Netherton best explained how this process begins:
"The unborn child, awaiting their new life, is profoundly affected by
prenatal awareness. With no conscious mind to discern or interpret, the
unconscious plays back any past life incidents triggered by events in
the mother's life. These incidents shape the behavior patterns of the
child. At birth, the infant will begin a life of trying to resolve those
past life events without ever knowing what they are."
As a person
continues through the "minefield" of their life, they continue to
stumble across the "unexploded bombs" of these triggers which then
continue to compel them to take the action that is necessary to resolve
the past life karma.
YOUR EMOTIONS' ROLE IN ENFORCING AGREEMENTS
The word "emotion" means "energy in motion" and is energy that must be
resolved as a person's life unfolds. Emotion, when linked to both
physical birth conditions and mental preconditioning, is an especially
powerful force in the unfoldment of karma.
Take the case of transsexuals.
When born, they receive the brain structure of one gender, but have the
flesh of the opposite gender, which sets up an extremely compelling karmic
conflict. Literally, their biology drives their emotional reality - like
it or not - and practically forces them to experience the alternative
In other words, body, mind, and emotions are so tightly aligned
that there is no backing out of the alternative lifestyle simply because
parents do not approve of it, friends cannot accept it, strangers hate
and hurt them, etc. So if you "feel" that you are being driven by your
emotions, then very likely you are exactly right!
WHEN THE UNIVERSE MUST ENFORCE AGREEMENTS
Despite the mighty forces of body, mind, and spirit arrayed against them,
some individuals still manage to "beat the system" by powerfully imposing
their will and their manifesting intentions upon the universe. Since we
are here to learn to become the creators of our lives, we are expected to
manifest our desires and to transcend our circumstances.
is inconsistent with our karma and our life path, the universe will
step in to "redress the balance". So an "accident" will "happen" to transform
either the circumstances the present life or a future one.
AGREEMENTS WERE MADE TO BE CHANGED
Life contracts are not "set in stone". In an ever evolving universe of
"infinite possibilities" and under the watchful eye of a compassionate
God, those who have earned the right by their actions in this life can
change their life contract. Such changes are rare but can be made.
Often they are not made because the individual, for most of their lifetimes,
is on the path of karma to advance their spiritual growth.
In the last life that the person has physically, they
are taken - in the inner worlds - to the Cave of Purification where the
karmic residue is burned from their energy field. If this did not happen,
people would spin around on the "Wheel of 84" and reincarnate forever.