Exercise: Plucking Dark Roses and Planting Light Roses
Summary: Clearing and Reorienting Relationship Energies/Belief Systems
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Background on This Exercise
Background: The most important mission we have on Earth is to learn to love one another. So often the relationships we have or want to have with others become unnecessarily complicated by the baggage of beliefs we carry along with us. This "baggage" clouds the energetic space between us and our loved ones, often blocking us from receiving or giving the love we want or have to give.
Goal: This exercise allows you to clear your own energetic space so you can improve an existing relationship with someone or in attract the relationship that you want with another person. Since we are all connected at the level of Spirit, doing this exercise should have positive impacts on any relationship you work on - even if the other person is not at all aware that you have done this exercise.
Preparation: Careful preparation is the key to the success of this exercise.
1> Before you begin, you will need to write out the following lists:
a> The list of "dark roses" (negative) which represents the energetic baggage you want to clear.
2> Do this exercise at night after you have taken a bath but before you have gone to bed. It is best you do it when you will be able to sleep the next day.
3> When this exercise is complete, drink a full glass of water and then immediately cleanse yourself. Good cleansing will vary depending on if you are an:
sweating in a sauna or steam room is good cleansing.
4> Being comfortable is the key. You
can lie down (recommended) or sit up. If you opt to sit
up, you must be supported and feel fully relaxed and
5> Do this exercise in a peaceful place where you will be completely quiet and undisturbed for the entire session. This entire exercise should last for NO longer than 30 minutes. Set an alarm to snap you out of it should the session run longer.
6> Be patient with yourself in the time to come. Reorienting your own energy and belief systems can be quite disorienting until the changes are fully integrated. It is VERY powerful and it takes time for the work that you have done on the inner bodies to be reflected in your outer body ("as above, so below"). If you are doing this process to effect a change, then you should be fully prepared to expect a change. You know the old saying: "Be careful what you wish for, you might get it!"
1> Take some deep, refreshing breaths until you are totally comfortable and relaxed in whatever position you have chosen (it should take you no more than 3 minutes to get comfortable).
2> Have each pair of dark and light roses statements in front of you. To make it easy on yourself, put each pair of statements on a separate index card.
3> The steps below must be repeated for each pair of "Dark and Light Rose" Statements. Remember: your heart is like a garden: it will take sometime to weed out the dark roses and to grow the light ones.
For each pair of "Dark" and "Light" Roses:
1> See yourself plucking the "Dark Rose" (DR) from your heart while using a circular, counterclockwise motion with your non-dominant hand.
2> Release the "Dark Rose" into the universe by dissolving it into the universal love stream of golden light.
3> See yourself planting the "Light Rose" (LR) into that now empty space in your heart using a circular, clockwise motion with your dominant hand.
4> Make the new "Light Rose" take root with the "water" of pure, loving energy that you beam into your heart using your dominant hand.
5> Repeat the process until all "Dark Roses" are plucked from your heart and all "Light Roses" are firmly planted and rooted in your heart.
6> For the next 7 days (or as long as needed), "water" the "Light Roses" with pure, beamed, love energy until you are sure they are flourishing inside you.
7> Weed your heart garden every so often, making sure to pluck out "Dark Roses" that might have come back and to replace them with "Light Roses".
Example: The "Dark Roses" statements defined a client's former beliefs about romantic relationships which were so negative that they led to a series of unsuccessful intimate relationships. They were replaced by the "Light Roses" statements which helped the client to attract successful intimate relationships.
DR#1: My heroic sacrifice resulting in my beloved's abandonment will result in our permanent separation.
DR#2: I will mess it up and disappoint my beloved: I would rather never meet than let that happen.
DR#3: I can never make it up to my darling for all that has gone before in our tragic history.
DR#4: My experiences have damaged me: causing religious and sexual difficulties between us.
DR#5: I am not good enough: broken in health, not good looking, lacking in energy, and overweight.
DR#6: I am too "inflexible and independent" to be a traditional marriage partner.
DR#7: I am afraid of being together: I am very self-contained and I fear an intimate relationship.
DR#8: I do not trust the universe to bring us together: I have a history of romantic disappointments.
DR#9: The way I live now will keep us apart: others in my life may not understand.
Credits: adapted from an exercise developed by Ellen Mogensen and Sandra Skelly
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