Food #30: Free Yourself "On the Power of
"He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge
over which he himself must pass." (Herbert)
"Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves."
"There is no pit so deep that God's love is not deeper still. God
gives us the love to be able to forgive our enemies." (Corrie Ten Boom)
Everyone will need to give and receive sincere forgiveness...
to heal their life!
"Once you have rung that bell, you cannot go back
and unring it!"
The past is done and cannot be changed. Yet what is
important is to HEAL the past through love and forgiveness and then... move on.
Forgiveness is NOT:
Forgiving does not mean forgetting (as if the
wrong never happened) or condoning (as if it was not the mistake you know it
to be) what others have said/done or failed to say/do. Forgiveness means
letting go of the guilt, shame, sorrow, anger, and other negative emotions
that are keeping you stuck in unforgiveness of people, events, situations,
and the past in general.
If you are truly sorry, if you have learned from
your mistakes, and if you are committed to never repeating them again,
then you have corrected the past to the extent possible. You need to
forgive yourself, forgive others, and forgive the situation so that
unforgiveness does not stick you in the past.
Cost of Unforgiveness:
What God really wishes for us is that we
learn from our mistakes and go forward doing right. Being stuck in
unforgiveness keeps us from manifesting the miracles that are our birthright.
It keeps us stuck in the past, it drains the energy from the present, and
it stops us from creating an abundant future.
To allow more abundance into your life, start by
noticing the small miracles - the evidence of God's love - that are already
happening in your life. If you get a parking spot or find change on the
street or get a pleasant surprise, say
"Thank you God for this miracle.
I am truly grateful for it. Please send me another miracle. I am open
and ready to receive Your miracles in my life."
Start with Gratitude:
If you can recognize and be grateful for
the small miracles that happen in your life then you can really start to
manifest the larger ones. What you focus on with the passionate emotions
is what you will get more of in your life. You can have, be, or do anything
you want if only you will believe and act accordingly from a place of love,
gratitude, and hopefulness... -AND- if you will stop holding onto unforgiveness
of the past... which only ends up hurting you.
If you are finding it impossible to forgive someone else, here is why you
should set yourself free by extending it to them! Unforgiveness only keeps
you trapped in a prison of karma. By forgiving others, YOU feel better - in
body, mind, and emotions - and that is the only thing that should matter!
What Forgiveness is NOT:
Many have a hard time forgiving due to
false beliefs. They believe that if they forgive someone else that they
are "condoning it", "letting the bad guy get away with it", "failing to protect
themselves by forgetting all about it", and so on. When you forgive you
are doing none of those things. What you are doing by forgiving those
who have wronged you… is setting yourself free.
Forgiveness brings completion to the relationship.
When you forgive - once and for all - this releases the energy of closure
to the universe. Since at the level of pure energy, we are all one, you
will feel the sense of peace with the other person when you forgive them.
They will come into agreement to let you go.
Forgiveness is easier to manage if you give yourself
permission to break off contact with those who have hurt you. This means
no letters, emails, texts, phone calls, in person visits, etc. Often people
find it hard to do when they are family members. Yet "family is as family
does": if those who are biologically related to you act like your worst enemy,
then it is your right to protect yourself by keeping your distance from
them unless/until they can treat you with love.
Forgiveness becomes a reality if you give yourself
permission to put no attention on those who have wronged you. Do not ask
about or talk about them with others. Do not ask for or receive news about
them. Quite literally, do not put even more one nano-second of your precious
attention on them. Part of the freedom that forgiveness gives you is to
choose to put your attention on only those things that bring more love, joy,
happiness, and awareness into your life.
Forgiveness comes with greater ease once you purge
your memory of the wrongs done you. A very effective technique for purging
unwanted memories is to simply write down (from your viewpoint) all that
another has done to you. Once all the poisonous memories are off your mind
and stored safely on paper or in an electronic file, never look at it again.
Let the paper and the file remember the pain you have endured... so that
you can free your mind from it. Put attention on making your life
happy: it is easier to do once freed by forgiveness.
If you want to receive forgiveness for what you have done, you need to know
how to express true regret, remorse, and repentance. Expressing forgiveness
is meant to move you forward - karmically. When others express forgiveness
with the same kind of sincerity, the whole relationship improves.
What it is that you have done wrong in the past...
for which you are seeking forgiveness? Be honest about it. Who have you
hurt? What exactly did you do? When do you do it? How often? Where?
Why? The more deeply you can acknowledge what you did in the past, the
more fully you can release it.
Do you know exactly what you did wrong in the past
by what you said or did -or- failed to say or do? Do you understand the
reasons-thinking behind your past wrong? Do you understand your feelings-emotions
behind your past wrong? Are you being as accurate and honest as you can be?
Unless you can be totally honest about your wrong, you cannot express true
It is not enough to just acknowledge or be accurate
about the past. True forgiveness comes from making an agreement about
how to go forward in the future... so that the mistake is not repeated.
For example, if the past wrong arose from two people not showing one
another the proper respect, they need to agree to stop engaging in
disrespectful behaviors. These agreements need to be very specific.
In other words, if one person showed another disrespect by calling them
names, they would agree to immediately discontinue the name calling.
Agreements are worthless unless they are put into action.
To express forgiveness, you must act upon your agreements consistently
and permanently. So often people start out with the best of intentions
and actions but they just cannot keep them up and soon backslide into the
old behaviors. Expressing forgiveness means keeping up the commitment
to your agreement for creating a better future both by living your new
behaviors and turning your back on the old ones.
So start attracting miracles by showing true forgiveness
of the past with the
"Letters of Indignation"
exercise. When you do this exercise, do it from both
points of view (yourself and the other person). The more sincere you are
about doing this exercise, the better you will feel about the whole situation.
There is no one so evil that they must remain unforgiven for all time.
Everyone can be forgiven: even the most evil person you can imagine.
After all he did in the past, even Hitler can be forgiven. For anyone
to truly be forgiven, everyone must be forgiven! There is no one who
is beyond forgiveness!
For killing 11 million, Germany's Hitler is considered
to be the most evil person whoever lived. Yet, between them, Russia's
Lenin and Stalin supervised the murder of over 20 million. Although whoever
was the most the most evil is not certain, what is certain is that God's
forgiveness extends to them. For forgiveness to be God-like, it must be
absolute: extending to everyone without exception.
All by Agreement:
At the heart of karma is that fact that all
Souls exist because God loves them. God created all Souls to carry out
specific missions. Hitler, Stalin, and Lenin agreed to carry out an
especially tough mission in creating circumstances where multitudes
could explore and balance their past life karma. However evil and repulsive
their actions were, they still happened by agreement and ended per the same
agreement. Remember that all unfolded under God's watchful eye with the
goal of teaching about love through experiencing its absence.
From the horror of the Nazi Holocaust, Corrie Ten
Boom drew the all important lesson that "there is no pit so deep that God's
love is not deeper still." She lived to carry this message because a Nazi
officer, who was impressed by her spirit of unconditional love, released
her from that concentration camp. Ten Boom went on to bear witness to the
truth of the Holocaust through her book, "The Hiding Place" and her subsequent
Christian ministry to millions.
All for Love:
Think about the love it would take to forgive Hitler,
Stalin, and Lenin. It would have to be God-like, unconditional, and all
encompassing. Imagine how much easier it is for God to love individuals
with ordinary sins and frailties compared to such evil ones. That God could
love these three and others like them should be comforting and reassuring
for everyone. It should be "proof positive" that God's love truly is deeper
than anything could ever be in the universe.
When you have taken on tough roles in past lives, you may find it hard
to forgive yourself now. Know that it is unfair to judge the past by
the standards of the present. Know that karma ensures you will "pay
for your sins" and it ends up wiping them away... leaving only wisdom
What if… you had been one of the Roman soldiers
who had persecuted Christ? What if… you had involved others in the greatest
financial disaster of all time: England's South Sea Bubble? What if… using
a combination of nature and fire technology, you wiped out an Army of
thousands in a matter of minutes… not once but twice? How could you forgive
yourself? Can you do things in past lives that are simply unforgivable?
No, because God is infinite forgiveness.
Know that God forgives everyone, everything, for
all eternity - no exceptions. If God can forgive Hitler, Lenin, and
Stalin (which God has), than anyone else can be forgiven. Forgiveness
does not mean forgetting or condoning what you did in the past, it means
reconnecting why you agreed to it. The great truth of the universe
is everything that happens, happens by agreement both to work off past
life karma and to grow in love, joy, and awareness.
At the highest level, you are your Soul and you are
your Higher Self "who" agreed to the human experience that you have had,
are having, and will have in this lifetime. When you feel like you are
"deep in the hole" karma-wise you will take on extreme situations requiring
"deep forgiveness" to knock you out of this hole. Either you reach out and
forgive yourself at the deepest level -or- you will sink even deep into
that forgiveness hole until you reach rock bottom.
When you sink deeper, your problems become more
extreme until they absolutely force you to take action to forgive yourself
at the deepest levels. If you are wresting with deep health problems, they
will get progressively worse. If you are wrestling with deep money problems,
the debt and struggle will get worse. If you are wrestling with lack of
self love, your relationships (especially the one with yourself) will get
more problematic and turbulent.
In the examples above, I was the one who wiped
out the Armies… and it took me a long time to forgive myself. How I did
it was to "deeply and completely forgive myself" for that and other things
I had done in all my past lives by using the karmically responsible
"Emotional Freedom Technique".