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Quotes #14: All Too Human Frailty:
Whenever more than one person is present, society instantly exists. The moment that one person wants something of the other, language or some other means of communication is born. And so the interactive effect of society on language and communication and vice versa begins. Out of the struggle to understand and live together, civilization is born as people start coping with their all too human frailty. Humans are Social Animals That Sometimes Act That Way: The Common Human Tragedy:
The Natural State of Chaos The Common Human Tragedy: The Natural State of Chaos "Most human beings have to spend their lives in
utter vulnerability. All are murderable
and torturable, and survive only through
the restraint shown by more powerful neighbors. All are
born unequal, in terms of capacity or strength. All are
born in the inherent frailty of the human condition,
naked and helpless, vulnerable all through life to the
will of others, limited by ignorance, limited by physical
weakness, limited by fear, limited by the phobias that
fear engenders." "...during the time men live without a common
power to keep them all in awe, they are in that condition
that is called war, as is of every man, against every
man... Man in a state of nature is a brutish beast." "Two people cannot be alone together for upwards
of half an hour without one emerging as the
superior." "Our lives are suspended like our planet in
gimbals of duality, half sunlight and half shadow. If we
plead with nature, it is in vain; she is wonderfully
indifferent to our fate, and it is her custom to try
everything and to be ruthless with incompetence.
Ninety-nine percent of all the species that have lived on
Earth have died away, and no stars will wink out in
tribute if we in our folly soon join them." "In a culture of electronic violence, images that
once caused us to empathize with the pain and trauma of
another human being, excite a momentary adrenaline rush.
To be numb to another's pain - to be acculturated to
violence - is one of the worst consequences our
technological advances. That indifference transfers from
the screen, TV, film, Internet, and electronic games to
our everyday lives." "Reason is a biological product: a
tool whose power is inherently and substantially
restricted. It has improved how we do things; it has not
changed why we do things. Reason has generated knowledge
enabling us to fly around the world in less than two
days. Yet we still travel for the same purposes that
drove our ancient ancestors -- commerce, conquest,
religion, romance, curiosity, or escape from
overcrowding, poverty, and persecution. The Implied Social Contract: The Attempt to Bring Order to Chaos "Society is indeed a contract. It is a
partnership in all science; a partnership in all art; a
partnership in every virtue, and in all perfection. As
the ends of such a partnership cannot be obtained in many
generations, it becomes a partnership not only between
those who are living, but between those who are living,
those who are dead, and those who are to be born." "'Society everywhere is in conspiracy against the
manhood of every one of its members. The virtue in most
request is conformity. Self-reliance is its aversion. It
loves not realities and creators, but names and
customs." "Some of my unhappiest moments have been in
organizations. Somehow it seems to be quite respectable
to do things in organizations that you would never do in
private life. I have had people insult me to my face in
front of colleagues. I have had my feelings rammed down
my throat on the pretext that it would do me good. I have
been required to do things which I didn't agree with
because the organization wished it... In my worst moments
I have thought organizations were places designed to be
run by sadists and staffed by masochists." "Go light on the vices, such as carrying on in
society. The social life ain't restful. Avoid running at
all times. Don't look back. Something may be gaining on
you." "What has crippled our political discourse is a
long-indurated habit of demanding from government
qualities that should be sought, primarily, in other
aspects of our social life. Government plays a limited
role in human activity, and it should have the aspects
suited to its limits. It cannot be the family, the
church, the local club, the private intellectual circle -
all of which show the anti-governmental qualities some
seek to impose on the state. When government does not
show all the human virtues, it is rejected as
contributing to none of them. That asks too much of
government, as a preliminary to expecting nothing of
it." "Any law that takes hold of a man's daily life
cannot prevail in a community, unless the vast majority
of the community are actively in favor of it. The laws
that are the most operative are the laws which protect
life." "Any relations in a social order will endure, if
there is infused into them some of that spirit of human
sympathy which qualifies life for immortality." "Men heap together the mistakes of their lives,
and create a monster they call Society." "Chaos often breeds life, when order breeds
habit." "There are four ways, and only four ways, in
which we have contact with the world. We are evaluated
and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we
look, what we say, and how we say it." "The art of communication is the language of
leadership." An Organized Society Requires Us All to Play Language Games "Language is the armory of the human mind, and at
once contains the trophies of its past and the weapons of
its future conquests." "In the game known as Broken Telephone (or
Chinese Whispers) a child whispers a phrase into the ear
of a second child, who whispers it into the ear of a
third child, and so one. Distortions accumulate, and when
the last child announces the phrase, it is comically
different from the original. The game works because each
child does not merely degrade the phrase, which would
culminate in a mumble, but reanalyzes it, making a best
guess about the words the preceding child had in
mind." "The fun of Pinker's game (see above) is forever
destroyed by simply changing the rules so that instead of
whispering the sentence to the next person we write it on
a slip of paper (or a computer screen) and hand it along.
Now there is no room for interpretation or creativity.
Yet that may be the direction we are heading." Language Confines, Defines, and Describes Experience "The individual's whole experience is built upon
the plan of his language." "Language which makes communication possible is
also the construct which prevent us from having a pure
experience with the Source. Language serves as an
intermediary between the pure 'bubble of information'
that floats down to us from the source and the finite
minds at various levels of consciousness which struggle
to interpret and comprehend that information." "Intuition is the clear conception of the whole
at once." "Language shapes the way we think, and determines
what we can think about." "If we spoke a different language, we would
perceive a somewhat different world." "Even now as you are speaking to me, are the
words you are thinking in our language or in
theirs?" "To have another language is to possess a second
soul." "Language is the inventory of human
experience." "Words are the leaves of the tree of language, of
which, if some fall away, a new succession takes their
place." "Language is a process of free creation; its laws
and principles are fixed, but the manner in which the
principles of generation are used is free and infinitely
varied. Even the interpretation and use of words involves
a process of free creation." "Those who know nothing of foreign languages,
knows nothing of their own." "Language is the blood of the soul "Language furnishes the best proof that a law
accepted by a community is a thing that is tolerated and
not a rule to which all freely consent." Language Divides and Conquers in the Struggle to Communicate "Britain and America: two great countries divided
by a common language." "Look at the... deterioration which our Queen's
English has undergone at the hands of the Americans! Look
at those phrases which so annoy us in their books and
speeches, at their reckless exaggeration and contempt for
congruity!" "The American language is in a state of flux
based upon survival of the unfittest." "The problems of society will also be the
problems of the predominant language of that society. It
is the carrier of its perceptions, its attitudes, and its
goals, for through it, the speakers absorb entrenched
attitudes." "'The fact that any alien race communicates with
another is quite remarkable' Troi says as she lifts
Picard's clear glass cup filled with coffee from his
desk. 'We are stranded on a planet. No language in common
but I want to teach you mine.' Troi points to the cup and
says 'S'smarith... what did I just say?' Picard answers
'Cup? Glass?' Troi asks 'Are you sure? I might have meant
liquid, clear, brown, hot. And we conceptualize the
universe in the same way.'" (Communication
is much harder when the two parties do not - EM) "Legal language enshrouds the law, hiding it from
the public it exists to serve. The idiom of the lawyer
leads to public ignorance of the content of the law
(which paradoxically refuses to recognize that ignorance
of the law should be a defence), to uninformed criticism
and to unmerited praise. It provokes the indifference of
too many laymen towards the law and the contempt of
litigants for a system they do not understand."(See what it mean to conceptualize the universe
the same way? - EM) "The future business of businesses that have a
future will be about subtle differences, not wholesale
conformity. About diversity, not homogeneity; about
breaking rules, not enforcing them. About pushing the
envelope, not punching the clock; about invitation, not
protection; about doing it first, not doing it
"right". About making it better, not making it
perfect; about telling the truth, not spinning bigger
lies; about turning people on, not 'packaging' them.
Perhaps above all, about building convivial communities
and knowledge ecologies, not leveraging demographic
sectors." "Electric communication will never be a
substitute for the face of someone who with their soul
encourages another person to be brave and true." "Language is a city to the building of which
every human being brought a stone." "To effectively communicate, we must realize that
we are all different in the way we perceive the world and
use this understanding as a guide to our communication
with others." "How many languages are there in the world? How
about 5 billion! Each of us talks, listens, and thinks in
his/her own special language that has been shaped by our
culture, experiences, profession, personality, mores and
attitudes. The chances of us meeting someone else who
talks the exact same language is pretty remote." Luckily There are Civilizing Influences to Tame, Educate, and Uplift "There can be no be no better instruction... than
that every man who is to deal with his neighbor to follow
these commandments. 'Whatsoever ye would that
others should do unto you, do ye also unto them,'
and 'Love thy neighbor as thyself.'
If these were always followed, then everything would
instruct and arrange itself; then no law books nor courts
nor judicial actions would be required. All things would
quietly and simply be set to rights, for everyone's heart
and conscience would guide them." "Eighteenth-century Americans were eager for good
advice, especially advice concerning their conduct.
Children who wanted to be more grown up and adults who
wanted to be smarter, shrewder, or more couth, consumed
manuals of advice and instruction, written here or
abroad." "There are men who would quickly love each other
if once they were speak to each other; for when they
spoke they would discover that their souls had only
separated by phantoms and delusions." "A thought which does not result in an action is
nothing much, and an action which does not proceed from a
thought is nothing at all. It is civilization that
marries thought with action in a way which benefits
everyone." "Man's chief purpose... is the creation and
preservation of values. That is what gives meaning to our
civilization and the participation in this is what gives
significance, ultimately, to the individual human
life." "Be the master of your will and the slave of your
conscience." "Don't point a finger: lend a hand. "It is a myth, not a mandate, a fable not a
logic, and symbol rather than a reason by which men are
moved." "The progress of civilization is the degree to
which intelligence has prevailed over wealth and brute
force." "Civilization begins with order, grows with
liberty, and dies with chaos." The Court of Public Opinion, the Laws of Etiquette, the Moral of Manners "Things being understood, knowledge became
complete. "Manners or etiquette ('accessibility,
affability, politeness, refinement, propriety, courtesy,
and ingratiating and captivating behavior') call for no
large measure of moral determination and cannot,
therefore, be reckoned as virtues. Even though manners
are no virtues, they are a means of developing virtue....
The more we refine the crude elements in our nature, the
more we improve our humanity and the more capable it
grows of feeling the driving force of virtuous
principles." "Manners are of more importance than laws. Upon
them, in a great measure the laws depend. The law touches
us but here and there, and now and then. Manners are what
vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase,
barbarize or refine us, by a constant, steady, uniform,
insensible operation, like that of the air we breathe in.
They give their whole form and colour to our lives.
According to their quality, they aid morals, they supply
them, or they totally destroy them." "Manners must adorn knowledge, and smooth its way
through the world. Like a great rough diamond, it may do
very well in a closet by way of curiosity, and also for
its intrinsic value." "As any student of civility would, I find it a
fascinating notion: that there are professions for which
incivility is a requirement... I am skeptical of their
morality, because they fail to convey a message that we
are, all of us, not lone drivers but fellow passengers.
It may be that law and politics seem so dismally rude
because their principal ethic is merely one of victory,
an ethic materially enriching and emotionally satisfying,
but morally unimportant." "Empathy and fellow feeling form the very basis
of morality. The capacities for empathy, for feeling
responsibility toward others and for reaching out to help
them can be stunted or undermined early on, depending on
a child's experiences in the home and neighborhood. It
becomes too easy to turn our backs on fellow human
beings... to have 'compassion fatigue.' Technology, we
are learning, is not neutral." Seek to purge yourself from "'idols' or
tendencies to error. These come from human nature
("idols of the tribe"), from individual
temperament and experience ("idols of the
cave"), from language ("idols of the
marketplace"), and from false philosophies
("idols of the theater")." "When men are pure, laws are useless. When men
are corrupt, laws are broken." The Cycle of Life and The Evolution of Consciousness Author John Vernon had this unexpected reading
experience when he opened the pages of the tattered 1911
edition of the Encyclopaedia Britannica handed down to
him by his father-in-law: "In olden days, a glimpse of stocking was looked
on as something shocking. But now, God knows, anything
goes. Good authors too who once knew better words now
only use four-letter words writing prose, Anything goes.
The world has gone mad today and good's bad today, and
black's white today, and day's night today." "Today, when man seems to have reached the
beginning of a new, richer, happier human era, his
existence and that of the generations to follow is more
threatened than ever. How is this possible?" At the End of All Our Wanderings, We Find Ourselves for the First Time "The life of every individual, if we survey it as
a whole and in general, and only lay stress upon its most
significant features, is really always a tragedy, but
gone through in detail, it has the character of a comedy.
For the deeds and vexations of the day, the restless
irritation of the moment, the desires and fears of the
week, the mishaps of every hour, are all through chance,
which is ever bent upon some jest, scenes of a
comedy." "To laugh often and much; to win the respect of
intelligent people and the affection of children. To earn
the appreciation of honest critics and endure the
betrayal of friends. To appreciate beauty, to find the
best in others. To leave the world a little better place
than we found it, whether by a healthy child, a garden
patch, or a redeemed social condition. To know even one
life breathed easier because you lived. This is to have
succeeded." (This is to have lived. -EM) "For more and more people the world is coming to
resemble a diaspora, filled with new
kinds of beings -- Gastarbeiters and boat people and
Marielitos -- as well as new kinds of realities: Rwandans
in Auckland and Moroccans in Iceland. "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light
can do that. "We have met the enemy and he is us." "It was the best of times, it was the worst of
times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of
foolishness. It was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch
of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the
season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the
winter of despair'..." "I have a dream that one day this nation will
rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: 'We
hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are
created equal." "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a
single step." "One can begin to reshape the landscape with a
single flower." |
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